5 online affairs in 2½ years

5 online affairs in 2½ years

SINGAPORE - The first time Madam Audrey Chen cheated, she felt so guilty that she had to "hide" at her parents' home.

She says: "I was so certain that my husband could sense or tell what I had done.

"And I didn't think I could hug my daughter without feeling like I have been a bad mother."

But that was the first - and only - time that she felt guilty, confesses the 33-year-old image consultant in an interview with The New Paper on Sunday.

Madam Chen's husband, who wants to be known only as Don, filed a deed of separation last December.

They were married for eight years.

He says: "My wife has humiliated me. While I was faithful, she went on to betray our marriage vows.

"I don't think any man can tolerate that kind of insult."

And this is why, he says he agrees that websites such as Ashley Madison should be kept out of Singapore.

MyPaper broke the news last week of the website planning to launch in Singapore. And it sparked a public outcry, with Singaporeans and politicians insisting that its maxim "Life is short. Have an affair" is not what Singapore wanted.

Minister for Social and Family Development Chan Chun Sing said in a Facebook post that he is against any company or website that harms marriage.

Madam Chen laughs when she is told what her husband said. "Come on, even before Ashley Madison, I have found my partners through other adult dating websites, like AdultFriendFinder," she says.

"There's nothing wrong," she says. "If men can have affairs, why can't women do the same?"

If there is any tinge of guilt, it's when she has to face her five-year-old daughter. Says Madam Chen: "She is too young right now to really understand what has happened."

Madam Chen's foray into illicit affairs began about 2½ years ago. She was on hospitalisation leave after undergoing surgery.

"I was bored at home and was just trawling the Internet to read up about anything and everything," says Madam Chen.

It was during one of these visits that an ad popped up on her screen and when she clicked on it, the ad took her to an adult dating website, AdultFriendFinder.

And on that "so interesting website that promises to find worldwide sex dates, adult matches, hookups and f**k friends", she signed up and made friends with three men. "One of the three men turned out to be a Singaporean who was bored with his married life," she says.

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