Do I forgive my two-faced husband?

Do I forgive my two-faced husband?

Dear Thelma,

I've been married for more than 25 years and am blessed with three children. My husband is an approachable person and makes friends easily.

For the past two years, I realised that he has been very close to his former colleague, Y, who's in her early 30s. Last year, I found out from a close friend that she was going out frequently with him.

With the help of a friend, I managed to get pictures of them shopping and dining together, like a newly married couple. He has even lied to me stating he had to stay overnight at work when in fact, he was spending nights at her apartment.

When I confronted him, he said they were just friends and I should not listen to gossip. Back home he plays his part as a good husband. But his relationship with me and the family is no longer the same. I even showed him evidence and told him that I would take matters in my own hands by confronting the department head where Y works. He pleaded with me not to do so and promised to stay away from her.

Even though I love my husband I still don't trust him. I went undercover with some good friends and family members, and tracked his movements. My children are all close to me and they aren't happy about their father being "two-faced". All my children are already working with good jobs. They feel embarrassed about their father's affair and have even ask me to think about my future with him, and consider the possibility of a divorce.

My family, however, has asked me to be patient and hold on, that maybe he may regret his actions. I decided to give my marriage a chance but have told myself to be careful with his movements.

True enough, four months after our first fight, I noticed he seemed different again. To my disbelief, I caught him with Y in her apartment. I confronted her and scolded them. He was like a fish out of water and at a loss for words. Y was shocked and speechless.

It was all very horrible for me and I decided to talk it out with my children since they are all adults. All of them agreed that he should not be let off so easily for causing me so much pain. My family advised me to see a lawyer.

I talked to my husband and he confessed to the affair with Y, but said that now they are just business partners. I don't believe a word he says. He has begged me and my children for a second chance.

Confused And Hurt

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