SINGAPORE - She used to be a husband and father. He used to be criticised for his "offensive" comments about the transgender community.
Now they are set to become man and wife.
They first met at a private event about transgender issues in 2007. She was still a man then, but dressed like a woman.
Ms Fanny Ler, 39, who was Mr Frankie Ler until 2010, remembers her husband-to-be, Mr Zack Ling, 35, as a crass man who made misguided remarks about the community on SgButterfly. org.
"People on the forum were offended by his words. They thought he was after sex," she said.
She took the initiative to contact Mr Ling to correct his remarks. Then Mr Ling came across her Facebook page by accident and they started chatting. He said: "I remembered her from before. She had tried to correct my insensitivity and I thought that was quite considerate of her."
He was attracted to her sense of humour and amiable personality. After a few sessions of online chatting, he made the first move to ask her out.
"I bought flowers for her and asked her to go on a date. I don't see that she is different. I see her just as another woman," he said.
But Ms Ler, a human resources executive, had reservations.